Creating a positive and
performing team through EI

Understanding the power of emotional intelligence

By Angela Civitella

Emotional Intelligence (also called EI) is partly the ability to recognize and control your own emotions and understand what those emotions are telling you. Emotional intelligence also means that you can recognize the emotional wants and needs of others and respond appropriately. Put simply, emotional intelligence determines your self-awareness and your people skills.

Emotional intelligence is necessary for building trust, creating a sense of identity and efficacy, solving problems with others, cooperating, and participating productively in a group.

When emotionally intelligent people work together, they have the ability to sweep aside minor conflicts in order to focus on the team’s interests. They can deal well with more serious conflicts, and they can grow from any disagreements that may arise.

Emotional intelligence is necessary for building trust, creating a sense of identity and efficacy, solving problems with others, cooperating, and participating productively in a group.

While it’s possible for people without emotional intelligence to “go through the motions” and experience some of these benefits, they ultimately lack the trust that comes with high emotional intelligence. This means that they can’t realize their full potential as individuals, or work well within a group.

Research suggests that there are many important benefits of emotional intelligence. For example, a study published in The Leadership Quarterly shows that people who have high emotional intelligence perform better and experience more job satisfaction than those with lower emotional intelligence.

Furthermore, when people with high emotional intelligence come together as a group, there are numerous benefits. A study found, as you might expect, that emotional intelligence competency was positively correlated with team cohesiveness. Another study also concluded that teams with higher emotional intelligence perform better and quicker than teams with lower emotional intelligence. So emotional intelligence can really matter!

Building emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence might sound as if it’s something you’re born with. However, research shows that you can develop your team’s emotional intelligence, even in just a few hours.

Start with yourself
One of the best ways to help your people develop emotional intelligence is to lead by example. So, start by making sure that you’re leading with emotional intelligence. This means staying aware of your own thoughts and feelings, and managing them so that you affect other people positively.

‘Emotional intelligence might sound as if it’s something you’re born with. However, research shows that you can develop your team’s emotional intelligence, even in just a few hours.’

Communicate the benefits
Your team members might be more open to developing their emotional intelligence if you communicate the benefits that they can expect.

For example, sales professionals who have higher emotional intelligence often achieve better sales than colleagues with lower emotional intelligence. Professionals with higher emotional intelligence also typically have a higher income and experience greater job stability throughout their life; and, high emotional intelligence makes work and professional relationships more rewarding.

Let your team members know how developing their emotional intelligence will benefit them, both personally and professionally.

Develop self-awareness
Self-awareness is the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. People who are self-aware understand their own thoughts and emotions, as well as understanding how their actions affect others around them.

Encourage your team members to keep a daily journal – even writing for just five minutes a day can help people develop self-awareness.

You can also help team members build self-awareness by asking for their opinions on decisions – this is especially important for quieter people, who might not speak up that often. When you ask about a team member’s thoughts and feelings, it makes them stop and examine how they really feel about an issue, and this can lead to increased self-awareness over time.

‘Self-awareness is the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. People who are self-aware understand their own thoughts and emotions, as well as understanding how their actions affect others around them.’

It’s also important to set aside time to talk about difficult situations or issues and to address the resulting emotions. This can take place one-on-one, or informally over lunch. The more you encourage your team members to open up and talk about what they’re thinking and feeling, the more likely they are to develop self-awareness.

Strengthen communication
People with high emotional intelligence typically have excellent communication skills. Develop better communication in your team by teaching people to understand body language.

Good communication also means knowing how to deal with negative emotions. Give your team avenues for “venting” negative emotions – or frustrations about setbacks – in a constructive way.

For example, if people are upset, set aside five minutes of each meeting for complaints and frustrations, and let your team know that their criticisms won’t be frowned upon. You can keep this light-hearted by using a stopwatch; when five minutes are up, then your team members should move on and focus on an action item, or something that they can control. Try to create fun ways to acknowledge and deal with stress or tension.

Another important and often overlooked communication tool is listening. Teach everyone on your team to use active listening skills, and to respect other people when they’re speaking. When people are obviously not listening, call them out on their behaviour.

Build optimism
The ability to think positive is an important part of emotional intelligence. You can help your people think positively by stopping self-sabotaging behaviour or statements. For instance, if you hear someone say “I’m not very good at writing reports”, or “I’ll never be able to make a presentation in front of the group!” remind them of their strengths and thank them for the good work that they’re doing.

‘The ability to think positive is an important part of emotional intelligence. You can help your people think positively by stopping self-sabotaging behaviour or statements.’

Keep in mind that positive thinking doesn’t mean ignoring bad news and avoiding issues. It means acknowledging bad news and rationally deciding how to handle it, as well as searching for the good in each situation and learning from every mistake.

Encourage healthy conflict
People with high emotional intelligence know how to engage in conflict in a healthy way, where everyone’s perspective is respected when they communicate their views. This type of conflict can strengthen people individually and within a group, and can lead to personal growth.

Set specific learning goals
Your team members will have different strengths and weaknesses when it comes to their own emotional intelligence. For example, some people might be poor communicators, others might have little self-awareness, and some might be lacking in empathy.

Next, set clear, specific goals to help each person work on their weaknesses. For example, one person might be a poor listener, so, his goal could be to use active listening techniques four times per week for the next four weeks. Personalized goals like this will keep each person motivated.

Last, make sure that you provide constructive feedback on each person’s progress, but remember to do this sensitively for team members who may have low emotional intelligence. A word of encouragement or a helpful observation will go a long way in keeping your team members motivated and moving forward.

Key points

Emotional intelligence, or EI, is the awareness of your thoughts and emotions, as well as of the emotional wants and needs of the people around you.

Research shows that people with high emotional intelligence are often more satisfied with their work, have better work relationships, and experience higher productivity than people with lower emotional intelligence.

You can help your team members develop their emotional intelligence if you help them strengthen their communication skills, think positively, and engage in conflict in a healthy way. It’s also essential to lead by example.

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