Ask the sex doctor
Get answers to your questions about sex.
By Dr. Laurie Betito
Dear Westmount Magazine readers, it is with great pleasure and privilege that I will begin to answer your sex and relationship questions.
As a clinical psychologist with an expertise in sexuality, and with over 25 years’ experience, along with a radio show that has been on the air for over 15 years, nothing you ask me will be of any surprise. I tell you this because so often people feel alone, “weird,” “abnormal” or somehow sexual deficient and are too embarrassed or feel too much shame to discuss their issues with anyone.
This forum, just like radio, is an anonymous way to get your questions answered by a qualified professional.
This forum is an anonymous way to get your questions answered by a qualified professional.
I also want to reassure you that no question is a “dumb” question. If you have that question, then you can bet others do too.
Many of the questions I have received over the years (on air and by email) have to do with being “normal.” Human sexuality is one of those areas of our lives that are certainly not black-and-white. There is enormous variation and diversity, all of which can fall under “normal.” One saying I love is that “kinky is anything that is outside of what is normal to you” and we all have our different normals. That is not to say that sexual problems don’t exist—of course they do. Some of the most common sexual questions surround issues around erectile functioning, orgasm, and libido.
Relationship difficulties are also common—all we have to do is look at the close to 50 percent divorce rate! My wish is to provide a service, like I do on air on a nightly basis. For me this is just another way to reach out to those that may suffer in silence because of the taboo of sex. Let’s bring sexuality out into the open and let go of the shame in discussing what is a healthy, human part of life.
Send in your questions to firstname.lastname@example.org
Dr. Laurie Betito is the host of Passion on CJAD 800 weeknights at 10 p.m. She is also the president of the Sexual Health Network of Quebec, and the author of The Sex Bible for People Over 50: The Complete Guide to Sexual Love for Mature Couples. Dr. Laurie also maintains a private practice with an office on the West Island and one in NDG. She can be reached at email@example.com or at 514-984-5910.